How To Be In Love

Falling in love is so much fun! You feel good all over, life takes on a new meaning, you look forward to being with the person you love, you feel happy just thinking about your new friend...

Unfortunately, our culture, led by the media, sets us up to fall out of love as quickly as possible. The chatter in your mind, your friends, movies etc., they all fill your head up with ideas that make it impossible for love to thrive or even survive. We all know the scripts...

You know...

If he loved me he would buy me chocolates... he would phone me more often... he would bring me flowers when we go on a date...

Or maybe...

If he really loved me he would ask me to marry him... he would understand that I don't like it when he (does this)... he would have (this) kind of look in his eyes...

How about this...

If I was really in love I would feel like... I wonder if this is really love... I hope this lasts...

Can you identify with many of these thoughts and feelings? These are all culturally bred into us by our society.

In an attempt to capitalize on the power of love story tellers and advertisers have put all kinds of words and pictures into our mind. Yes, many of these are based on people's experiences, but what any one person experiences is always different from the next one.

If you find yourself starting to think along these lines, realize that you are probably about to talk yourself out of love.

Love is a feeling. Love is an experience. Love is life itself.

When you are really in love, you know. There is a sense of fulfillment, a sense of satisfaction. The tension that often accompanies love is created by the scripts we begin to play in our minds, based on cultural influences.

If you are in love, try this: just relax. Let life unfold the way it does. Don't try to second-guess what you will do next or what your partner will say or do.

Just relax. Let it happen. Bask in the good feelings. Let them nurture you. Let them heal you. Let them give you that which you have been longing for, for such a long time.

By doing this you will give love a chance.

If it is really love, you will know. Love is nurturing, caring. Love is attractive. Love is good health. Love is full of life. If you are experiencing any or all of this, love is probably real.

Let it be. Let it give you fulfillment. Respond to your feelings in terms of giving love. Don't stifle it with fear and considerations. If it is real it will continue. If it is not real, you won't be able to delude yourself for long. The whole experience will become negative. That is not love. That is neurosis.

Love is the essence of creation. Love is the glue of the universe. Love is the most fundamental expression of God.

By relaxing and letting love happen you are coming in tune with the deepest aspect of yourself. You are coming in tune with God.

Let it happen. Be real. Don't go into pretending love. Enjoy it while it lasts. After it is gone (if it goes away) you will be a transformed person. Your life will have changed forever. You will be more capable. You will have more wisdom. You will have lived!

Let love happen. It is life itself. Once you have experienced it, you will have tasted the nectar of immortality. You will have experienced heaven, on earth.

Be at peace with love. Be in silence. Let love guide your life. Don't fight it. Don't try to control it. Don't try to predict it. Let it be.

That's the way to enjoy love.

If you try anything, you are getting away from the true experience. The true experience is good. As soon as you get away from it you are dealing with your own ideas rather than the reality of love.

Love is the gentlest of experiences. It is so subtle that it can hardly be pinpointed by the conscious mind. This is why you have to just let it be.

Love exists at the deepest levels of consciousness...just after the pure essence of being. The experience of pure being is nothingness (but a full nothingness). Just as your experience of pure Self comes out of the nothingness, love is the first thing that is experienced...then happiness is experienced. This is why love is associated with happiness.

For the record, Krishna is the first unit of creation. He is pure love. People who have experienced Krishna report waves and waves of love.

Similarly, when you meet someone who is tuned in to the deepest aspect of themselves you will have experiences of love. I have found children are almost entranced when they see someone like that. Women also respond with love. They can't explain it, but they just fall in love with such a person, even if there is no basis for it. Even men, especially highly sexed men respond this way (I'll explain why later some time).

Love can be triggered by the right person, or it can be a normal experience of someone who it tuned in to the deeper aspect of themselves.

If you want it to continue, just leave it alone. Let it be. Let your soul swim in the experience. It is the most wonderful thing that could happen to a person.